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Author Archives: Lady of the Manners
More Club Etiquette
Hello, Faithful Readers, and welcome to the March edition of Gothic Charm School. This month, we are going to talk about a subject that has been covered in this forum before . . . club etiquette.
The Lady of the Manners can hear the cry now: “But you’ve already lectured us about that!” Well, yes. But then the Lady of the Manners was sent all sorts of interesting mail about the topic, had all sorts of interesting conversations with people who work at goth clubs, and was beseeched by those same people to elaborate on her previous advice. So this column is for them, and is especially dedicated to Tara, Ziggy, JQ, Heather, Eric, and Cathy, who gave the Lady of the Manners a wealth of information on the topic. Continue reading
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Romantic Gestures
Greetings, Faithful Readers, and welcome to the February installment of Gothic Charm School. You know what February means, don’t you? The annual column about love and romance, you silly things! Continue reading
Posted in Love & Romance
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This and That, Stuff & Oddments
Hello, Faithful Readers, and welcome to Gothic Charm School in 2000. Not, mind you, that the turn of the century will have that much of an impact on the Lady of the Manners’ advice, but since everyone else seems to have made such a fuss about it becoming a new century, she feels she might as well go along with it. (Though it is the Lady of the Manners’ personal opinion that the last turn of the century had much, much better clothes. No one can convince her that the continual re-visiting of the 1970s by fashion designers is a Good Thing.) Continue reading
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Holiday Shopping and Parties
Hello, Faithful Readers, and welcome to the holiday edition of Gothic Charm School. The tell-tale signs of the holiday season are upon us: fake snow in window displays, every storefront covered in twinkly lights, and glazed expressions on the on the faces of salesclerks from non-stop exposure to piped-in holiday music.
Now, last year, the Lady of the Manners explained to you how to keep family harmony during the holidays by being polite, friendly, courteous, and practicing at keeping a somewhat cheerful, but neutral facial expression when asked, “so, aren’t you done with this weird phase yet?” by well-intentioned but clueless relatives. This year, the Lady of the Manners is going to cover some other points of surviving the holidays: shopping, and holiday parties ”” both the attending and throwing thereof. Continue reading
Posted in Holidays & Special Occasions
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Friends Don’t Let Friends Dress Like The Crow
A reader asks the question: Why is it a faux pas to dress like The Crow? Continue reading
Posted in Being Social
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Halloween Do’s and Don’t’s
Hello, Faithful Readers, and Happy Anniversary! Yes, it’s been a full year of advice from Gothic Charm School ”” it didn’t seem that long, did it? In amongst the questions that Faithful Readers sent in, there were also various missives from people asking, “what gives you the right to tell people how to dress and behave?!” To which the Lady of the Manners responds: She’s not telling anyone in a dictatorial fashion. Everything has been advice, which means people are free to ignore it completely. For those out there who have felt slighted by the Lady of the Manners’ disdain for face-covering elaborate eyeliner and plastic capes, oh well. Rest assured that she would never run up to you and tell you that you look silly. That would be rude and unkind.
Anyway, it’s October, and we all know what October means for goths, right? ALL THE STORES ARE STOCKING HALLOWEEN THINGS!! Continue reading
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Holidays and Birthdays: Conflicting Plans
Hello, Faithful Readers, and welcome to yet another round of advice from your devoted the Lady of the Manners.
While September seems a bit early for people to be worrying about the holiday season, one reader sent this touching plea for advice on what to do about a potential conflict in her holiday plans: Continue reading
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Bright Lights, Big City
…how to adapt to a new scene.
Hello Faithful Readers, and welcome to August. Gothic Miss Manners has complained at you (the Faithful Readers) for the past two months about summer weather, so she’s going to spare you that topic of conversation entirely. No, what this month’s topic of conversation is going to be is . . . moving. Continue reading
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Crossing Over
Hello, faithful readers, it’s June. For those of you still incarcerated in school, your seasonal freedom is soon at hand! No more for you the drudgery of doing homework, kowtowing to teachers, or panicking at the words “pop quiz.” Of course, that doesn’t mean you’re going to stop learning. Oh no; the Lady of the Manners is here to kick off summer vacation with an overview of the Basics of Being a Goth. Why, you ask? Read this missive from one of the Faithful Readers and you’ll understand. Continue reading
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Too Old To Be Goth?
Hello, faithful readers, and welcome to May. The days are longer, it’s sunny and warm out, and the Lady of the Manners has been looking through her closet in vain for something that might be usable for gothic Victorian summer wear. But never fear, that overwhelming obsession has not distracted the Lady of the Manners from the pleasant task of answering your questions! This month’s query comes from reader Adrian Forte:
I’m curious, when do you reach the point in your life when you are too old to consider yourself Goth, especially if you’ve never really gotten into the Goth scene in real life. Continue reading
Posted in Growing Pains
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