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Author Archives: Lady of the Manners
Soft Goth, or a New Name for an Existing Thing
t\The one that the Lady of the Manners keeps seeing pop up in her Google alerts for “goth” (yes, she has one, of course she does) or scroll across her Tumblr dashboard that gives her a combination of nostalgia and confused “But we already have that!” feelings: “soft goth”. Continue reading
Posted in Eldergoth Life, General, Stereotype Technology
Tagged romantigoth, soft goth, the same as it ever was
6 Comments
Of Goths and Aging
Let’s get one thing out of the way right off the bat: there is no age limit to being a goth. Goth is an all-ages subculture, no matter what a lot of social media tends to focus on or present. One of the great joys of aging is that you become more comfortable with yourself, and (hopefully) care less and less about what others may think about you. Embrace and show your weirdness! Be comfortable in your spooky skin! Continue reading
Posted in Elder Goths, Eldergoth Life, General, Growing Pains
Tagged aging in the subculture, eldergoth
10 Comments
This is Not the Goth Nostalgia We Asked For: Wearing All Black is NOT a Danger Signal
You would think, considering how long the goth subculture has been undead and thriving, parents and schools these days wouldn’t be concerned when their children decide to explore goth. And yet. Continue reading
Posted in General, Serious Matters
Tagged dress codes, goth is not dangerous, growing pains, talking to parents
13 Comments
True Tales of Eldergoth Life – Finding Music
Back in the Lady of the Manners’ day (she says, waving a stick of clove incense around because she stopped smoking 20+ years ago), finding new goth music was hard, especially in the early 90s. Continue reading
Posted in Eldergoth Life, General, Music, Stereotype Technology
Tagged eldergoth life, music
10 Comments
Of Dealing with Parents
be supportive. Or at the very least, not react with fear and disapproval. But alas, that ideal world doesn’t exist. So what can you do when your parents react poorly to the unfurling of your spooky self? Continue reading
Posted in General, Growing Pains, Serious Matters
Tagged growing pains, parents, talking to your parents
7 Comments
Goth Fast Fashion, and Why It Isn’t Always a Good Thing
For this installment of Gothic Charm School, the Lady of the Manners turned to Twitter and ran a poll to narrow down what topic she should tackle next. It turns out that many, many Snarklings were interested in the Lady of the Manners rant opinions around the rise of gothy fast fashion. Continue reading
Of Reclaiming Goth for Yourself
How do you reclaim Goth for yourself when it’s ended up with uncomfortable personal associations? Continue reading
Vampire Fiction, a Personal List
So, after years and years of promising to write titles down, the Lady of the Manners presents to you her “by-no-means comprehensive, but I like them” list of vampire fiction, in alphabetical order. Are all of these brilliant works of genius? No. But they all, in some way, tickle the Lady of the Manners’ velvet-draped heart. Continue reading
Of Goth Nostalgia
There are many, many things from Ye Olde Goth Days (Nights?) where the memories spring forth, flatteringly colored by the flickering candlelight of memory. And it takes a determined effort to also remember that the distance of time blunts the sharp, painful edges of those memories. Continue reading
A Reminder, and Festive Cookies!
First things first, Snarklings: the Lady of the Manners is SO HAPPY to see people showing their delightful faces and using the #EverydayGoth and #ThisIsGoth tags on Twitter and Instagram. Keep doing that! And feel free to tag the Lady … Continue reading