Monthly Archives: January 2014

Responding to Insulting and Mean Comments

Hello Snarklings! This time at Gothic Charm School, the Lady of the Manners is going to deal with a subject that both she and goths everywhere are sadly all too familiar with: people directing unkind or mean-spirited comments at you. Ophelia sent in the following question: Continue reading

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Yet Another Polyvore Fashion-y Thing!

Look! Another gothy Polyvore doll from Thea Maia! Continue reading

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Don’t Drink, Don’t Smoke – What Do You Do?

Dearest KittyPirate, and any other Snarklings who may have been wondering about this: it is absolutely alright to be goth and not drink alcoholic beverages! Now, the Lady of the Manners understands how the confusion would arise, as a lot of goth social life is focused on going to night clubs and fancy events. Not to mention the fact that many of the historical roots of goth are strongly entwined around the notions of being transgressive, redefining what is beautiful, and being terribly, terribly decadent.

However, it is possible to embrace all of those notions while not intoxicated! And that in some ways, being a part of the goth subculture while not drinking is a more daring and rebellious viewpoint to hold than the alternative, because it means that your thoughts aren’t blurred by anything other than your own visceral reactions. Continue reading

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Fashion-y Things!

One of the Lady of the Manners’ dear friends is Thea Maia, a fabulous artist who spends a lot of time on Polyvore. One day, during an afternoon of tea and working on craft projects, we talked about her creating gothy fashion dolls on Polyvore, to aid you Snarklings in finding all sorts of fashionable fripperies and spooky stylish things. So with no further wittering here is the first creation! Continue reading

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