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Author Archives: Lady of the Manners
Of Serious Matters Such As Harassment And Bigotry. And Vampires.
Honestly, Snarklings. The Lady of the Manners leaves you alone for a few short weeks in order to go see Coraline and review manuscript pages for the Gothic Charm School book, and then distressing letters arrive in her mailbox! Continue reading
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Of Movies and Button Eyes: Coraline
t’s time, Snarklings, for the Lady of the Manners to flail her hands in excitement. Why, you may ask? Because the movie for Coraline arrives in theatres on February 6th!
You do know about Coraline, don’t you, Snarklings? The wonderful book by Neil Gaiman about a young girl who walks through a secret door in her new home, into an alternate, more magical version of her life, complete with Other versions of her parents. But the magic takes a turn for the sinister, and Coraline must rely on her determination and bravery to get back home. Continue reading
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Of Goths and Religion
Snarklings, why do so many people (including ones who should know better) think that Goth has some sort of religious affiliation? Is it because so many Goths like wearing large, ornate cross pendants or intricately-beaded rosaries? Wait no; that, while possibly a small part of it, can’t be the main impetus for so many people assuming that Goth comes with a particular religious requirement. Because if that was the case, the accessorizing with crosses and rosaries would cause people to assume that all Goths are particularly flamboyant Catholics or Christians, and this poor Snarkling wouldn’t have written in with the following letter: Continue reading
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Amusements, Or What the Lady of the Manners Looks At When She Is In Need of Distractions
Hello and happy 2009, Snarklings! May this year be generous and the best kinds of exciting for everyone. This installment of Gothic Charm School isn’t the usual sort of lesson; no, it’s a short list of places on the Web that the Lady of the Manners is fond of. Blogs she likes to check, places she likes to window (and tab) shop, that sort of thing. You see, the Lady of the Manners is working on writing up the next lesson for Gothic Charm School (a number of you have written with questions concerning Goth and religion), but she thought that while she was working on that topic, you Snarklings might like to see where the Lady of the Manners goes for distraction and gothy eye candy. Continue reading
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Of Conflicts About Cosmetics, Requests For Fashion Advice, and Dealing With Copy-Cats
Hello Snarklings! Goodness, the Lady of the Manners has a whole bundle of letters to answer from readers. Yes, the Lady of the Manners had intended to sit down and write up replies to them in a slightly more timely fashion, but was distracted by such things as squee-ing over a new sewing machine and needing to bake gingerbread bats. Not to mention that whole day job thing. But! The Lady of the Manners has resolved to resist the siren calls of new fabric (pink skull brocade!) and a recipe for absinthe-flavored marshmallows, and instead focus on answering Snarklings’ questions. (Because she does like doing that just as much as sewing or baking; it’s just that sewing and baking require a smidge less concentration.) Continue reading
Posted in Being Fashionable, Being Mannerly, General, Growing Pains
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An Important Announcement About Gothic Charm School!
Exciting news, Snarklings! Coming to bookstores in June 2009, the Gothic Charm School book! Gothic Charm School – An Essential Guide For Goths and Those Who Love Them, published by HarperCollins.
As you might guess, the Lady of the Manners is giddy with excitement about the upcoming Gothic Charm School book, and hopes that all of you are too. Because you see, this book isn’t a mere collection of assorted columns from the history of this site, gracious no! The Gothic Charm School book is full of all sorts of new goodies, and artwork by the Lady of the Manners’ dear husband, noted fantasy artist Pete Venters. (He created all the artwork for this website.)
The Lady of the Manners is also delighted to announce that she’s a special guest columnist in the Winter 2009 English-language Gothic & Lolita Bible from TOKYOPOP! As you Snarklings who are regular readers know, the Lady of the Manners is quite fond of EGL (Elegant Gothic Lolita) and EGA (Elegant Gothic Aristocrat) fashions, so being asked to contribute to the Gothic & Lolita Bible was a treat and an honor.
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The Lady of the Manners had a wonderful time at Bats Day In The Fun Park, and meeting some of you Snarklings made a fun-filled weekend even better. The Lady of the Manners has always wanted to attend Bats Day, but the previous events were usually held in the height of summer. As a delicate native of the Pacific Northwest with a wardrobe full of petticoats, the prospect of summertime in Anaheim, California, canceled out the enticement of the sight of Disneyland swarming with fellow Goths. But oh, the Lady of the Manners is so glad she attended this year! The sight of 1,282 Goths standing in line for the Haunted Mansion is a memory that will bring a smile to her face for years to come. Continue reading
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Bats Day In The Fun Park
This is just a quick note, Snarklings, to let you know that the Lady of the Manners is attending the 10th annual Bats Day In The Fun Park this weekend! If you’re also attending and happen to spy the Lady of the Manners wandering around, please come over and say hi!
(Yes, it’s true. The Lady of the Manners loves Disneyland, and would quite happily move into the Haunted Mansion.) Continue reading
Of Returning To One’s Gothy Roots
Oh Snarklings, the Lady of the Manners really did intend to have this lesson at Gothic Charm School be about the basics of a Goth wardrobe, really she did. But the Lady of the Manners received letters from a few … Continue reading
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Of Goths and School Dress Codes
Autumn means back to school, or it least it does according to most calendars and retail establishments. Of course, for many school-age Goths, back to school also means back to being harassed about what they prefer to wear. The Lady … Continue reading
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The Lady of the Manners in BUST magazine!
The October/November issue of BUST magazine has an interview with the Lady of the Manners! The Lady of the Manners has been a fan of the funny, fierce, and always thought-provoking magazine for ages and ages, so she is very … Continue reading
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