Category Archives: General

This is Not the Goth Nostalgia We Asked For: Wearing All Black is NOT a Danger Signal

Posted on August, 2024 by Lady of the Manners

You would think, considering how long the goth subculture has been undead and thriving, parents and schools these days wouldn’t be concerned when their children decide to explore goth. And yet. Continue reading →

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True Tales of Eldergoth Life – Finding Music

Posted on September, 2022 by Lady of the Manners

Back in the Lady of the Manners’ day (she says, waving a stick of clove incense around because she stopped smoking 20+ years ago), finding new goth music was hard, especially in the early 90s. Continue reading →

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Of Dealing with Parents

Posted on May, 2022 by Lady of the Manners

be supportive. Or at the very least, not react with fear and disapproval. But alas, that ideal world doesn’t exist. So what can you do when your parents react poorly to the unfurling of your spooky self? Continue reading →

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Of Reclaiming Goth for Yourself

Posted on July, 2021 by Lady of the Manners

How do you reclaim Goth for yourself when it’s ended up with uncomfortable personal associations? Continue reading →

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Vampire Fiction, a Personal List

Posted on April, 2021 by Lady of the Manners

So, after years and years of promising to write titles down, the Lady of the Manners presents to you her “by-no-means comprehensive, but I like them” list of vampire fiction, in alphabetical order. Are all of these brilliant works of genius? No. But they all, in some way, tickle the Lady of the Manners’ velvet-draped heart. Continue reading →

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Of Goth Nostalgia

Posted on January, 2021 by Lady of the Manners

There are many, many things from Ye Olde Goth Days (Nights?) where the memories spring forth, flatteringly colored by the flickering candlelight of memory. And it takes a determined effort to also remember that the distance of time blunts the sharp, painful edges of those memories. Continue reading →

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A Brief Pause, and Helpful Links

Posted on July, 2020 by Lady of the Manners

(Regular posting will resume here at Gothic Charm School some point in August. Things in the world have been very chaotic and stressful lately, which has led to a lack of writing.) The Lady of the Manners gets political: The … Continue reading →

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Tutorial: Gothy Sunhats!

Posted on May, 2020 by Lady of the Manners

The season of the Burning Orb is approaching for many of us. Which means that it is time to be extra diligent with sunblock, parasols, and sun hats. While you could stick with any plain wide-brimmed hat and go for … Continue reading →

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Stereotype Technology: Gothic Romance!

Posted on April, 2020 by Lady of the Manners

What the Lady of the Manners can do right now is offer distractions. In this new reality where many of us are living in our pajamas and other “comfy” clothes, the Lady of the Manners went straight to Gothic Romance loungewear. Why wear leggings and t-shirts when you can swoop around in ruffled nightgowns and billowing caftans? (There is nothing wrong with leggings and t-shirts. In fact, the Lady of the Manners is wearing leggings and a Bauhaus shirt as she is writing this article.) Continue reading →

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Tutorial: Red Velvet Lines the Black Box

Posted on March, 2020 by Lady of the Manners

Sometimes, Snarklings, you find a lovely box: a jewelry box, a lunchbox, perhaps the Holy Grail of a vintage metal coffin purse ”¦ Or, almost perfect, if it was only lined in a different fabric. (In the Lady of the … Continue reading →

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