Category Archives: General

Whisper Networks and Missing Stairs: Creeps in the Subculture

Posted on May, 2025 by Lady of the Manners

Content warnings before you read this post: it discusses abusive and predatory behavior, manipulation, and issues of consent. 

Gather ‘round, Snarklings, it’s time to discuss a serious topic: predators and creeps in the goth subculture. Continue reading →

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Soft Goth, or a New Name for an Existing Thing

Posted on March, 2025 by Lady of the Manners

t\The one that the Lady of the Manners keeps seeing pop up in her Google alerts for “goth” (yes, she has one, of course she does) or scroll across her Tumblr dashboard that gives her a combination of nostalgia and confused “But we already have that!” feelings: “soft goth”. Continue reading →

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Of Goths and Aging

Posted on January, 2025 by Lady of the Manners

Let’s get one thing out of the way right off the bat: there is no age limit to being a goth. Goth is an all-ages subculture, no matter what a lot of social media tends to focus on or present. One of the great joys of aging is that you become more comfortable with yourself, and (hopefully) care less and less about what others may think about you. Embrace and show your weirdness! Be comfortable in your spooky skin! Continue reading →

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This is Not the Goth Nostalgia We Asked For: Wearing All Black is NOT a Danger Signal

Posted on August, 2024 by Lady of the Manners

You would think, considering how long the goth subculture has been undead and thriving, parents and schools these days wouldn’t be concerned when their children decide to explore goth. And yet. Continue reading →

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True Tales of Eldergoth Life – Finding Music

Posted on September, 2022 by Lady of the Manners

Back in the Lady of the Manners’ day (she says, waving a stick of clove incense around because she stopped smoking 20+ years ago), finding new goth music was hard, especially in the early 90s. Continue reading →

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Of Dealing with Parents

Posted on May, 2022 by Lady of the Manners

be supportive. Or at the very least, not react with fear and disapproval. But alas, that ideal world doesn’t exist. So what can you do when your parents react poorly to the unfurling of your spooky self? Continue reading →

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Of Reclaiming Goth for Yourself

Posted on July, 2021 by Lady of the Manners

How do you reclaim Goth for yourself when it’s ended up with uncomfortable personal associations? Continue reading →

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Vampire Fiction, a Personal List

Posted on April, 2021 by Lady of the Manners

So, after years and years of promising to write titles down, the Lady of the Manners presents to you her “by-no-means comprehensive, but I like them” list of vampire fiction, in alphabetical order. Are all of these brilliant works of genius? No. But they all, in some way, tickle the Lady of the Manners’ velvet-draped heart. Continue reading →

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Of Goth Nostalgia

Posted on January, 2021 by Lady of the Manners

There are many, many things from Ye Olde Goth Days (Nights?) where the memories spring forth, flatteringly colored by the flickering candlelight of memory. And it takes a determined effort to also remember that the distance of time blunts the sharp, painful edges of those memories. Continue reading →

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A Brief Pause, and Helpful Links

Posted on July, 2020 by Lady of the Manners

(Regular posting will resume here at Gothic Charm School some point in August. Things in the world have been very chaotic and stressful lately, which has led to a lack of writing.) The Lady of the Manners gets political: The … Continue reading →

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