Author Archives: Lady of the Manners

A Brief Pause, and Helpful Links

Posted on July, 2020 by Lady of the Manners

(Regular posting will resume here at Gothic Charm School some point in August. Things in the world have been very chaotic and stressful lately, which has led to a lack of writing.) The Lady of the Manners gets political: The … Continue reading →

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Tutorial: Gothy Sunhats!

Posted on May, 2020 by Lady of the Manners

The season of the Burning Orb is approaching for many of us. Which means that it is time to be extra diligent with sunblock, parasols, and sun hats. While you could stick with any plain wide-brimmed hat and go for … Continue reading →

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Stereotype Technology: Gothic Romance!

Posted on April, 2020 by Lady of the Manners

What the Lady of the Manners can do right now is offer distractions. In this new reality where many of us are living in our pajamas and other “comfy” clothes, the Lady of the Manners went straight to Gothic Romance loungewear. Why wear leggings and t-shirts when you can swoop around in ruffled nightgowns and billowing caftans? (There is nothing wrong with leggings and t-shirts. In fact, the Lady of the Manners is wearing leggings and a Bauhaus shirt as she is writing this article.) Continue reading →

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Tutorial: Red Velvet Lines the Black Box

Posted on March, 2020 by Lady of the Manners

Sometimes, Snarklings, you find a lovely box: a jewelry box, a lunchbox, perhaps the Holy Grail of a vintage metal coffin purse ”¦ Or, almost perfect, if it was only lined in a different fabric. (In the Lady of the … Continue reading →

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Gothy DIY Tools – the Essentials!

Posted on January, 2020 by Lady of the Manners

The Lady of the Manners has recently seen an uptick in posts (mostly on Tumblr) about gothy fashion: bemoaning the cost of the “name brand” fashions, bemoaning the lack of plus-size clothing, and assorted other “how do I put together … Continue reading →

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Of Goth Fashion for Accessibility and Chronic Health Issues

Posted on November, 2019 by Lady of the Manners

Dear Lady of Manners
My question is less one about etiquette, and more about logistics. I have my own mix of Victorian goth and punky style that I was perfectly happy with until fairly recently.

The problem is that around 3 years ago, my chronic health conditions deteriorated, and I had to start using a wheelchair full time. I can no longer stand or walk, and a large portion of my clothing is not suitable for wearing in a powered wheelchair. Continue reading →

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Of “Grown-up” and Corporate Goth

Posted on October, 2019 by Lady of the Manners

It falls to the Lady of the Manners to inform you, Snarklings, that a cycle is repeating itself. Apparently the fashion industry has yet again discovered us. As reported by the Wall Street Journal, no less. Continue reading →

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Stereotype Technology: Pen and Paper

Posted on July, 2019 by Lady of the Manners

Many, many goths like writing supplies. Blank books, fancy pens, notecards, stickers – all of these things can set goth hearts aflutter like little bat wings. The Lady of the Manners knows very well that she’ll never use up her entire stash of fancy writing goodies, but that doesn’t stop her from coveting more. Continue reading →

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Ten! Years! Old!

Posted on June, 2019 by Lady of the Manners

HOLY BATS, GOTHIC CHARM SCHOOL: AN ESSENTIAL GUIDE FOR GOTHS AND THOSE WHO LOVE THEM HAS BEEN IN PRINT FOR TEN YEARS!! Continue reading →

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Of Funeral Etiquette

Posted on June, 2019 by Lady of the Manners

Do you have any advice for goths on what to wear to a funeral? I’ve never been to one, and even though most of my wardrobe is black, I don’t really know what’s ”too much” (no massive skulls and bats, nothing cut too low, but beyond that), or even how to do my make up for it. Considering how much of my style and interest in art is based around Victorian mourning clothes and the abstract concept of Death I have no idea what I’m doing. Continue reading →

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